My husband got deployed right after we found out that I was pregnant. I am raising our daughter alone with no help. I am sleep deprived and today when I decided to take a nap for once, I missed my husband on the instant messenger. I can’t get any sleeep and when I try and take a nap I miss the one chance to talk to my husband. Trying to do everything alone is realy hard and I hate it when people say “how is it” How would you be if your Husband or Wife was in another cuntry getting shot at and bombed while you where at home trying to hold things together being a first time mom and running the house hold alone! You wouldn’t be good so stop asking how it is and saying you understand because you don’t unless you have been through it before. Instead pick offer to help and say what can I do or better yet just do something with out being ask. Everyone sends care packages to the soldiers which is awaome, but no one thinks about the single parents back here at home. OUr world just doesn’t stop because our soldier is deployed. A home cooked meal would be nice or mow our yard. Ever try to mow a yard with a 3 week old baby and no one to watch it. IT doesn’t happen. and despite what people think we can’t jsut hire everything done, we aren’t rich!
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I wish I could send you more than just encouraging words… but that’s all I got. Your husband contribution to our country is appericated. And YOUR contributon to our country is appericated. Hopefuly your husband will come home soon and you can start to enjoy your new family. You and your family will be in my prayers.
I’m there with you sister. Husbands been gone for 6 months, I have my son FT and his sons PT, plus all of the house crap, a full-time career, ass hole ex and martyr exwife of his.
Not sure what I did to earn this crap.
Thing is, I do believe in what he’s doing. And 90% of the time I’m ok. But you are absolutely right - unless you are in this situation, no one knows. You get platitudes. Apparently we joined some bizarre world and didn’t even know it.
All I can say is hang in there. It sucks. It absolutely sucks. But this too shall pass. Not sure what happens then, but I’ll keep you in my prayer.
Sorry - one more thing. We have the money to have some stuff done, but honestly, it only helps about 25% of the time. It never helps as much as you think it will. At the end of the day, it’s you and hopefully enough sanity to get you to the next day. I’ve been a single mom, and that was actually easier because you can create your world to fit within those parameters. Here, you are in suspended animation - you can’t make the permanent decisions (moving into a small house with no yard or closer to family) that would have an impact and you can’t go find the companionship that you crave. You are stuck trying to keep things moving forward without the power to really change the things that make life difficult. Ok, that was more than one thing, but again, you are in my prayers.